A Time to Listen

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about learning. We’ve spent most of the past two years in a virtual environment, where many of us have felt a lack of community due to our forced isolation. Even those brief “water cooler” moments with fellow employees used to help us sharpen our communication skills and spur brainstorming.

If you’re like me, a day spent talking to my dogs just wasn’t cutting it. As I shared in the thick of 2020, I’m an Extrovert with a capital E, so the virtual hugs also weren’t doing the trick.

This pandemic era has reinforced for me the importance of building and nurturing community, and being a lifelong learner. I’ve found creative ways to stay engaged in stimulating conversations and taken classes (both creative writing and behavioral economics!) that have challenged my ways of thinking.

At the Hazen Institute for Leadership Training (HILT), we’ve also found creative ways to offer both virtual and in-person trainings and presentations to strengthen your leadership skills. No matter the setting, we incorporate interactive elements and adaptive learning to best match your organization’s culture.

For example, we recently convened a virtual 90-minute training for the Board of Trustees of a prominent national organization and a 2-hour face-to-face Board training for a gold standard regional affordable housing group. Both highlighted the importance of being the strongest possible ambassador, with the primary focus on sharpening their active listening skills.

The advantages of virtual included the ability to involve people across the country and around the world from the comfort of their own home, and utilizing breakout rooms and the Chat space for a highly interactive session. For the face-to-face training, many of the board members were meeting each other in person for the first time, which was highly valuable and valued, plus the generative discussion created by 1-on-1 and full group exercises was extremely well received.

So what would happen to our world if we all spent more time listening than talking? Whether face-to-face, virtual or hybrid, our learners have found the active listening module to be the most helpful and applicable to every aspect of their work with their constituents, colleagues, supervisor, staff and donors.

Practicing intensive active listening is one of the most important values we hold at HILT. It’s a core element of every training we provide, because we’ve witnessed the power of how much it can grow and strengthen social impact organizations of all shapes and sizes. And this knowledge is too important for us to keep to ourselves! In the coming months, we’ll use this space on our Insights blog to bring you our top five (5) active listening tips.

Join me here on Insights as we explore together practical ways to use active listening in all aspects of your life. I believe that in today’s challenging and often polarized world, now—more than ever—is the time to prioritize listening.

Interested in learning more about HILT? Check us out here: www.hazeninc.com/hazen-institute-for-leadership-training.

If you read nothing else this week...

…I encourage you to read this post by the always enlightening and ever brilliant Vu Le: nonprofitaf.com/2021/10/10-predictable-responses-from-white-dudes-when-people-criticize-inequitable-systems.

As we observe and reflect on Indigenous Peoples’ Day (yesterday, October 11th), Vu’s thoughtful post reminds us of how important it is to watch, listen and learn vs. getting angry or defensive, or worse, shutting down completely. I must confess that while every single one of the items on the list resonate with me, it is #s 5, 8 and 9 that bother me the most.

Though let’s be 100% clear: as a white, upper middle class straight woman, I’m confident I’ve been guilty of some of these behaviors myself over the years, and I will never stop learning. For every a-ha moment I’ve had regarding race and culture in my life, I know there are hundreds, if not thousands, more to come.

Seventy 'Til Spring

70 more days

10 more weeks

Just 10 more Mondays

Then spring breaks through

 

I’m done with other counting and countdowns:

·      C19 cases

·      Election Day, Runoff Election Day, Inauguration Day

·      Virtual assemblies by the hundreds: business meetings, family gatherings, less-than-happy hours

·      Even tracking the number of months, weeks, hours until blessed vaccination

 

Only one day counts now

 

The start of the first 2021 solstice will be one for the history books

Time’s relentless forward march forging a welcome milestone

Bringing with it new beginnings, new opportunities

A breath of fresh air as we journey back outside and – dare I say it? – begin to congregate safely again, to re-connect face-to-face as a community

 

How far we’ll have come by then

Since our annual blooming rite of passage last year

When most in North America were merely one week in

Blissfully unaware of the long haul that would follow

Of the isolating, emotionally twisty road ahead

 

Seventy more days and nights

‘Til the promise of a new era arrives

Day 50: Dreaming of Pubs, Stubs and Hugs

So…this is my 50th day in my humble abode. During a time when many of us are home 24/7, what I find I’m missing most are the pubs, stubs and hugs.

Pubs. My level of alcohol consumption has gone down dramatically since my college days, so it’s not really about the beer or wine. It’s about spending quality time with friends and family, enjoying each other’s company F2F, telling funny stories, and laughing at something other than cat videos.  

Stubs. Plays. Movies. Concerts. Music, movies, dance - there’s nothing quite like the shared experience of the arts.

Hugs. Least revealing news about me: I’m an Extrovert with a capital E. I’m also very tactile – I love to hug. Virtual hugs are not the same as the real thing.

No doubt you’ve already figured out the thread here. What I crave most right now is to come together; to relish a shared experience; and to bask in community.

In her terrific webinar about how to manage anxiety during difficult times, fellow AFP board member Leah Eustace offers up a wealth of valuable information. Her simplest, most straight forward slide from that presentation gave me solace: “This Is Temporary.” 

I’m so grateful to Leah as those three words have had a tremendous positive impact on my ability to feel hopeful every day. I hope they’re helpful to you too.

I know how much we all want to get together with our friends, family and colleagues again, even you introverts! ☺ And I cannot wait until the day when I can give folks a great big hug, take in a show together, and then meet up afterwards at a pub to talk about it. 

Once we’re all able to venture out safely, I will never take pubs, stubs and hugs for granted again.

Singing Philanthropy’s Praises

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Did you know that Aloha means love, affection, peace, compassion and mercy? While it's commonly used today to express a casual hello or goodbye, there is a much deeper cultural and spiritual significance for those who were born and bred on one of the magical Hawaiian islands.

Love, affection, peace, compassion and mercy - all central to the heart and soul of philanthropy.

Last week, I was incredibly honored to be a part of AFP National Philanthropy Day (NPD) events in Hawaii and my home chapter of Washington, D.C.

I'd been invited to visit AFP's wonderful Aloha Chapter for their NPD conference and awards luncheon in Waikiki. The day began with plenary speaker T.J. Joseph singing a beautiful, traditional Hawaiian greeting. The power of song was ever-present as a very moving traditional Oli marked the beginning of the luncheon festivities.

 

Fast forward 48 hours, and back in D.C., I had the good fortune to host a table filled with phenomenal social sector leaders for the AFP/DC Chapter celebration, this year at the fabulous Arena Stage. The luncheon was kicked off with Nova Payton descending the iconic Arena stairs, belting out a full-throated rendition of Don't Rain on My Parade!

After the wonderful Mary’s Center fundraising professional team and Bank of America were recognized, the event ended with...you guessed it, a song! This time it was led by AFP's very own Mike Geiger, President & CEO, providing meaningful closing remarks and then surprising DC's chapter president Janece Kleban by asking her to take the stage as we all serenaded her with Happy Birthday. BTW, today is her actual birthday – please wish her well @JaneceKleban!

 

From Honolulu to DC, the Pacific to the Atlantic – from sea to shining sea, I reveled in the rich tapestry that makes up our ever changing, ever evolving nation. Love, affection, peace, compassion and mercy. Building and uniting our world changing community through solidarity and song as we gathered together across the country and around the world to honor and celebrate transformational philanthropy and everyone who makes it possible.

@AFPIHQ @afpaloha @afpdc #NPDlove #NationalPhilanthropyDay

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